Your Husband Wants You to Cuckold Him
• Emotional Health
You’ve come to dominate your husband, perhaps in a playful way or maybe you’ve taken control of all the basics of the marriage (or partner if not legally wed). It seems to be going OK when he suddenly presents you with an unexpected wish.
Your husband (lover) wants you to have sex with another man.
You are deeply shocked. Maybe you can see it as a spicy fantasy but you don’t want, are repelled by the idea of sex with a stranger, sex outside of your relationship.
In a demented effort to validate his desire he shows you blogs by men who write of being cuckolded by their wives (most often called “Mistress Wife”).
Many of those blogs by supposedly submissive men are fiction. Fake. Phony. The cuckoldry described never actually happened.
Because so few women wish to “cheat” on their partner even with his consent cuckoldry is one of the least acted out femdom fetishes. If you scan many you’ll see the scenario often develops according to the common clichés of the genre:
The Femdom Cuckold Stereotype
- The man describes himself as sexually inadequate.
- Very often he says he has a small penis and that prevents him from satisfying his wife.
- She decides that he doesn’t deserve sex and locks his penis up in a chastity device.
- She makes him were some of her lingerie.
- Eventually he is required to dress up as a girl, most often as a ‘sissymaid.’(Feminization, sissyfication seems a frequent theme.)
- Wife cuckolds husband.
- Her lover - often called a “bull” - meets and mocks husband.
- Husband is required to lick his semen from his wife’s vagina.
- Husband is forced to perform oral sex on bull.
The violent emotional forces at work explain why so many femdom cuckoldry blogs are lies.
Possible Causes of Cuckold Fantasies
- The man desires much deeper humiliation than the wife will allow.
- Some sort of gender dysphoria confuses the man.
- The man is latently bisexual.
Unable to live his desires the man creates a fictional reality in a blog and on forums. Not uncommonly he writes as the cuckolding female.
Some men actually push their wife into doing this. Divorce is often the result. In many cases because the man is so deeply wounded when it really happens.
There really are F/m couples that practice cuckolding successfully. They are rare. And both the man and the woman have considerable emotional maturity and trust.
Many women come to despise the man that asks for this. Some wives leave their husband because knowing he wants this is intolerable.
This is one of those rare cases where a kink does require a counselor.

Comments
Hubby wanted to see me with a younger virile black man and I agreed to it and I finally decided to cuck him in order for me to enjoy fully my new hotwife status and my new black lovers.
Posted by: Angie Woods | July 19, 2007 1:33 PM
Hi,
We are a long term very happily married couple (16 years) with a toddler in the house. We have always been a Femdom couple, very sex positive and adventurous. We maintain a Female Led Household and cuckolding has been a fun and hot aspect of our play. It doesn’t dominate our lives nor has it had any adverse effects on us. Rather it has made our sex life fun and hot.
We agree that a couple needs to be extraordinarily close and secure in order for this kink to work. But for us it does.
Please feel free to drop by our blog where we try to talk honestly about how we fit this into our life. We try not to be preachy. We’re certainly no authority on anything. We just try to tell it as we live it.
Best,
scott Mrs. Kelly’s Playhouse
Posted by: scott Kelly | August 9, 2007 6:06 AM
My wife and I live a very successful Female Led Relationship where she cuckolds me and I am kept in chastity. However it does take a special relationship in which there is complete trust and understanding of both parties. Before we were Mistress and slave we were already players. She has always enjoyed having sex with many different men and women so this seemed a natural path when we started a FLR household. I really don’t think it is as rare as you indicate. We have met a fair number of people who are also into either a cuckold or hotwife relationship where the wife enjoys multiple partners while the husband stays faithful.
M
Posted by: m | August 27, 2007 3:56 PM
Scott,
I actually do know there are couples like you and Mrs. Kelly. It takes very rare psychological stability to do what the two of you do.
Posted by: Richard | August 28, 2007 11:15 AM
M,
I think you may be dealing with a self-selected sample population. Most people can barely manage conventional marriages.
Posted by: Richard | August 28, 2007 11:18 AM
Funny how people who can’t understand other peoples choices have to demean them. I enjoy being with other men. What’s not natural is being with one person your whole life. Men have had the option of multiple partners since the beginning of time, we (women) are just now enjoying that freedom not being held by the earning capability of men. I love my husband, and he’s the perfect man for me, but I, like him, enjoy other members of the opposite sex. I got married for love, not taken prisoner by a jealous insecure hypocrite who cheats on the side.
Posted by: joe | September 27, 2007 9:40 AM
I am definatly the head of our home, I make all the financial decisions and have the final say in most aspects of oue life. My wife is not submissive and we discuss all things defor I decide what we will do and most time her imput will sway my decission. I think that makes us the average family. We are a second marrage and befor I met her she had many lovers, she enjoyed the sexal differances of the men she slept with. I didnt know it at the time but I am a cuckold, after discusing (pillow talk style) our likes needs we decided she could continue seeing other men. I am free to see woman but prefer to help her, I dont get involved other than to suport her and I find that satisfies me. Out side that we have a normal healthy relationship.
Grahame
Posted by: Grahame | November 13, 2007 6:32 PM
Hi my wife was forever being desired by other men and after 10 years of marriage I found when she flirted I was increditably turned on ,she arrange or set me up with a young woman an of course caught me in the act ,I was then told it was “tit for tat” she then got all dressed for a night out and I had to watch, she left the house and I was so horny it was crazy when she came back I was waiting in bed naked with a rock hard cock she told me in detail what had happened an watched as I jerked off all the time ,she was so excited by this she asked if I wanted her to do it again, from then on I became a cuckold ,we always enjoyed fantastic sex after, just us two an got real pleasure talking about in foreplay, in the end we had a long term lover an yes sometime it was a threesome , we talked about me having another fem but agreed for us it wouldn’t work as I was turned on by her being pleasured but she’d be jealousy of me doing it with another woman Dave
Posted by: Dave | February 18, 2008 8:17 AM
My wife loves the cuckold fantasy. I tell her all the time about her stud doing her while I pleasure her with my hand. I give her awsum orgasms and she is very happy. I seldum penetrate her. I tell her I am her slave. I am now encouraging her to humiliate me more by calling my dinky and sometimes only she gets to cum or I might have to go to the bathroom by myself to relieve myself. I am amazed how well she takes to this fantasy. She rejected all my others involving bondage or punishment. I have also told her I would buy her a tummy tuck and get her implants for her to show to her stud. She loves it!
Posted by: B | March 3, 2008 9:15 PM
My name is Karen, and a little about me and my house hold. I am a dominant woman with a cuckold husband who has been wearing a chastity belt for as long as we been married. He has never entered my pussy, and never will. My husband also has never been allowed to cum. I have 4 kids of my one, and knocked up with a 5th. All of my kids are from different men. I have two boys and two girls. The boys are trained to be obedient to their sisters and women in general. My husband is trained to be obedient to me, my daughters and other women. My husband and sons wear diapers. My oldest son, 14, has been wearing a chastity belt since his 11th birthday, and he has never masturbate or had an orgasm. My 14yo son, is a cross-dresser, as well as my 8yo son. My 11yo daughter is an exhibitionist, and I consider her the school whore. My 4yo daughter is spoiled by having her dad or brothers do things for her. If any readier has any
questions, email me at ilikeyou_2468@yahoo.com, Karen
Posted by: Karen | May 15, 2008 12:46 PM
I think this cuckolding business is bullshit. There must be serious troubles in marriage, if husband wants his wife acting like a bitch. But women with backbone don’t go for it. These “she-male husbands” needs psychiatric help. If husband really love his wife he can satisfied her sexually. The third popart can easily ruining the marriage. Practice hardcore sex with your own wife. Love is better than humiliation and creampies.
Posted by: Gary 47 | May 18, 2008 6:11 PM
I’ve been attempting to get my wife to cuckold me for quite some time. I am 40 and she is 31. She has at times said, ok, but then as we go any further at all, she says no. She is worried that what if she is with another guy and has feelings for him, she will leave me. I think this is a legitimate concern for her, but not for me I’m thinking. I’m not sure what to do to go any further. Any advice?
Posted by: Jeff | May 23, 2008 10:37 PM
I have been the “other guy” in two couples cuckold married lives and in both cases the couples have seemed to be very close and initmate, and very loving toward each other.
I’m no expert, but from my own experiences, this kind of relationship can work. All I ever did was have sex with the wives whenever the couples felt like they needed this sort of fantasy acted out. None of them ever regretted it. It became a normal way of life for all concerned.
One wife told me that she felt like I was a permanent part of her and her husband’s married and sexual life and would miss me if anything ever changed. I still see this couple from time to time (maybe 4 times a year), but it works for them and I’m happy to help keep their marriage intact.
I’m sure 90 percent of the stuff you read about cuckoldry is just fantasy and fiction, but this is all true. I have no reason to lie about it. Good luck to anyone considering this lifestyle. Just be absolutely certain you can handle in before hand. Tread very slowly and it just might work for you too.
Posted by: John | June 2, 2008 6:17 PM
I’m a 58 year old woman married 35 years. Four years ago my when my controling head of the household husband mentioned cuckold I didn’t know what it meant. When he explained it I was floored. Now four years later I have sex on a regular basis with a wonderful lover. My husband has since become very submissive. I now run the household and him. We no longer have intercourse together and haven’t for two years, the fact that he will never penetrate me again always excites him and he climaxes within moments of cuddling up to me. Everybody has their own opinion but cuckolding has made our marriage better than ever.
Posted by: Mrs. Stanlo | June 21, 2008 9:54 AM