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Dominance, Submission, Bondage, Sadism, Masochism and Romantic Love
People who think power exchange and sadomasochism are exclusive with romantic passion are either ignorant or inexperienced. Or have only met desperate wacky masochists (which do wander the web in great numbers).
BDSM and Romance are not mutually exclusive, though sadly, much of the current erotica published for mass media out there seems to catter to the view that it has to be.
For me, I do not think I nearly as fulfulled after a scene when there is not some element of romance involved, and I believe the same can be said about Silk as well. I am able to slip ‘deeper’ into headspace when I feel that I am traveling those dark road out of love rather then doing a scene to get my ‘kink fix’. Of course, Silk and I have also been accused of being sickenly sweet at times
It does also get under my skin a bit when look around sometimes and see so many do-me and (pain/bondage/whatever)sluts out there just letching Dom/mes for their next session. To me, a submissive should be looking for ways to sweep their partner off their feet, both in and out of scene…
Comments
I have always been the submissive but have to say that dominating does turn me on now and again
Posted by: femdom-blog | February 11, 2009 6:58 PM
I agreed right up until, “a submissive should be looking for ways to sweep their partner off their feet, both in and out of scene ” That runs both ways: regardless of gender or d/s position, both people should be sweeping each other off their feet. Romance is not the exclusive responsibility of subs or of men.
I do enjoy casual play. While it’s fun, it’s not fulfilling like it is in the context of a relationship.
Posted by: roo-roo | February 11, 2009 8:23 PM