Romance and Submission

Have any girls in here lost at strip poker and ended up in bra and pantys,how did you feel?, was it embarassing?

 I enjoyed this post and agree with much of what it said. I especially liked the last statement about romance not existing without submission. I personally understand this concept but also believe that true submission cannot exist without love and emotional connection. Yes one can allow another to dominate them to various degrees of severity pertaining to the various interactions the two enjoy. However, simply putting one’s self into a subordinate position of so called helplessness or servitude in essence for me lacks the vital component of complete submission. 

 Having live the so called BDSM lifestyle for 28 years I have been privy to and exposed to many different situations and dynamics within the lifestyle ranging from light sexual play to intense S&M. I have noticed that the interactive relationships that contain the element of a deep romantic or emotionally loving bond have always shown themselves to be the deepest and most intensely realistic example of total submission.

 Now I am not condemning or accusing casual relationships that often tend to be the titillating filler for so many of the stories and vids published and streamed by many so called Doms and Dommies who profess their mastery of the lifestyle. For in reality these activities simply provide them with the financial means to support themselves through the use and manipulation of another’s desires to their financially benefit. Yet all too often they would never consider sharing any off the financial boon with the numerous submissives they use for material.

 Yes I guess it could be enjoyable to have numerous so called slaves or submissives to serve one’s every need from financial support to sadistic desires. However, I learned through personal experience that those sorts of interactions could not truly be considered a relationship and in the end were empty, falsely inadequate and lacking of true substance.

 By refraining from gathering a large number of individuals but rather focusing in on one individual I could develop an attachment physically, romantically, and deeply emotionally I found that the act of a truly submissive relationship has so much more to offer the Dom/Dommie as well as the submissive. BDSM play and frequent interaction is just what it states “PLAY” preference not a lifestyle. It involves activity one enjoys engaging in just like riding a bike, racing cars, bowling or any other activity one enjoys. However, a relationship that contains not only submission and commitment, but love and devotion as well truly is a lifestyle.

 The first type of submissive may allow you to restrain them, make money off them, and provide temporary sexual satisfaction when desired, which don’t get me wrong can be liberating and provide great enjoyment. However, the second type of submission develops a complete and total commitment and devotion where your partner would willingly step into harm’s way without giving a second thought just to ensure your safety. This ultimate devotion exists with the complete trust that your commitment to them matches theirs to you and as such would cause you to likewise step in to harm’s way to protect them. Only through such an all encompassing devotion and trust is one truly able to experience the full extent true power and ultimate submission.