Still Girls and Boys
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Some dominant women actually want some elements of the traditional female / male heterosexual dynamic to still be in place in their romantic D/s relationships. What shape your power exchange takes is really up to the needs and desires of you and your submissive male partner.
Men and women don’t stop being men and women just because they are femdom people who like the woman to be on top. What you accomplish is largely the same, but the difference is in how you go about it. The differences are revealed often only upon close inspection.
Dominant women generally aren’t aggressive and obvious, but that’s because they are women, and women in general aren’t aggressive and obvious. If a man wants to know what pleases his lady, he may have to ask.
What’s wrong with that? Men and women have been like that since we have been male and female. It’s not deliberate. Thank hormones. Hormones are a fact of life. Fortunately nature very generously has given men and women an innate appreciation for each other despite our differences. This tends to smooth things over. :)
Subs: Do you like not having to initiate it all/be in charge?
Comments
Now you’re talking my language.I don’t think any “normal” person (man) would ever want to give over TOTAL control of his entire life to someone else. That’s not who we are. But I do agree that it is nice to have someone else initiate the action most of the time at least. On the other side of that coin, my feeling is that while a dominant woman will want to initiate sex or play most of the time, deep down, they still want to know they are wanted by their man enough for him to initiate loving at times. Maybe if she is feeling bad about something that happened at work or just in her personal life. We all need that special someone there for us outside of the D/s relationship…someone that loves and respects us for the person we are deep down inside.
Posted by: Macbeth | March 19, 2009 11:13 PM