Positive Feedback

I don’t spend nearly enough time reading Lenora’s blog.

I think she’s short chaning dominants here. But from the surrendered side there’s no denying the imporance of positive feedback:

D/s engages the emotions and the intellect, in numerous complex ways. As such it’s easy to get caught up in that. And while that’s often necessary — a good Dom/me is always thinking, evaluating, considering — it’s just as necessary to stop and just take a deep breath and savor what it feels like to be the recipient of sincere submission and effort. We don’t do it nearly often enough.

And, it feels to Me that We express that feeling to the other even more rarely. This is especially difficult because many submissives will not say that they need to hear it, because they are trying to be “good,” or don’t want to be perceived as overly needy. Thus the onus falls on the Dom/me to remember that the feedback, and not just the “corrective” feedback, is essential to the long-term emotional health of the submissive, and as a result to the health of the relationship as a whole.

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