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On Becoming More Sadistic
Gorilla Girl and The Jane from Hell’s Kitchen must have been pretty rough.
When topping your boyfriend or husband you may find that you want to hurt him even more than you have. You want to cover his flesh with clothespins, slam the cane into his buttocks harder or increase the level of whatever sort of sadistic play you enjoy the most.
The increase in sadistic desire isn’t rare. Once you discover how much you enjoy working over a masochistic man your appetite increases. That isn’t necessarily a problem.
Unless you want to, say, beat him with more intensity than he can enjoy. What do you do then?
Some submissive men can find it rewarding to be pushed to the edge, to really suffer for the pleasure of the top. Not every session but at times. However real his desire to please you he may need lots of verbal reassurance, statement of your pleasure in his being able to offer this form of submission.
If your relationship or marriage is open you can find a male pain slut for the times you are feeling the most sadistic. To keep your more committed relationship intact you may have to agree to certain limits with the play partner: e.g., no kissing.
If you can’t find an outlet for the full force of your sadistic libido you will have to decide which matters most your current relationship or your frustrated longings.
This is an addendum to Guilty Female Sadists.
Comments
Ladies should not feel guilty at all for enjoying themselves it is only natural for the male to please the female. When the male ceases to be of benefit to the Lady then it is time for him to be replaced in the relationship.
Posted by: billy | August 21, 2009 8:21 PM
Ilove a cruel dominating women
Posted by: Yaccov | March 26, 2011 4:33 AM
Is this a problem for women really? From what I keep hearing from men they claim they can’t find a woman who is hard enough on them. Hearing this only makes me wonder if they have ever experienced the reality. Really getting smacked is so much different (on so many levels) than just thinking you would like a woman to smack you. For myself, I have only been harder when I am angry. However, if I were angry I would be less likely to Dom then. Too easy for something to go wrong. Also, when I am angry I want to be alone versus taking it out on anyone or even talking to anyone.
Posted by: Laura | April 19, 2011 9:37 PM
Dear C.W. You’re the one I fear the most and want the most. I’ve been slapped silly and trampled ‘til I shit my pants. But could you draw a line with cbt? What if there were 2 or 3 mercy words. I test my limits sometimes but I want to be able to crawl of and lick my wounds if you don’t. Maybe you could dial it down by spitting on your sub and cursing him. Or make a video for later. Just a thought.
Posted by: zen heliotrope | June 12, 2011 1:34 AM