Help! I'm a Cruel Woman!

On Becoming More Sadistic

Gorilla Girl and The Jane from Hell’s Kitchen must have been pretty rough.

When topping your boyfriend or husband you may find that you want to hurt him even more than you have. You want to cover his flesh with clothespins, slam the cane into his buttocks harder or increase the level of whatever sort of sadistic play you enjoy the most.

The increase in sadistic desire isn’t rare. Once you discover how much you enjoy working over a masochistic man your appetite increases. That isn’t necessarily a problem.

Unless you want to, say, beat him with more intensity than he can enjoy. What do you do then?

Some submissive men can find it rewarding to be pushed to the edge, to really suffer for the pleasure of the top. Not every session but at times. However real his desire to please you he may need lots of verbal reassurance, statement of your pleasure in his being able to offer this form of submission.

If your relationship or marriage is open you can find a male pain slut for the times you are feeling the most sadistic. To keep your more committed relationship intact you may have to agree to certain limits with the play partner: e.g., no kissing.

If you can’t find an outlet for the full force of your sadistic libido you will have to decide which matters most your current relationship or your frustrated longings.

This is an addendum to Guilty Female Sadists.