Guilty Female Sadists
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Female Sadism isn’t Evil
You are a woman who has discovered that you like to hurt men. The idea of whipping a man excites you. As do images of men writing and whimpering in response to your actions.
Your sadism makes you feel guilty. It contradicts your feelings of female as nurturer. Or that you are dirty or a pervert: a bad woman.
If you scan the web you’ll discover plenty of dominant women who enjoy S&M. Regular women in addition to professional dominatrices. Real women in addition to the male masochists who pose as women. Conventional and unconventional women, wives, mothers, poets and accountants.
Sadism is a legitimate part of a person’s sexual orientation. As is masochism. And without sadists, masochists would go through life unfulfilled.
I know women who think the sight of a man willingly suffering for her pleasure among life’s greatest joys. As a masochist I’m so delighted that there are women who can enjoy me that way.
Sadomasochism is a two way street. Without you the road would be closed.
Followup: Help! I’m a Cruel Woman!
Comments
I want to experience this… i’m getting hard thinking about a woman beating me….
Posted by: Spaceman | May 23, 2009 12:53 AM
How nice for you. You do realize this is a note about women becoming comfortable with their own sexuality?
Posted by: Richard | May 23, 2009 3:15 AM
There are not only women who are turned on by seeing a man suffer. There are also men that can’t live without the pain and suffering. So it’s natural, simply said.
Posted by: hotsexwu6969 | May 23, 2009 5:06 PM
I like women/ female sadists. cause me pain and let me look at you…mmmmmmm
Posted by: Frank | November 5, 2009 12:56 AM
Hello, I ama 27 year old closeted sadist/domme and I think I’m going to crack soon. I go through these highs and lows when I talk to men online who actually enjoy me and want to meet. But then I get sad and angry at my husband; “Why can’t he want me this way?”
I love my husband, but he wasn’t honest about his limitations when we got married and assumed I would figure it out on my own, which I did.
I suppose my only question is; What to do? I don’t know how much longer I can continue being in a situation like this (which I realize is my fault for thinking I could change him)
I don’t know whether I want to scream while biting nails in two or just curl up and sob because the love of my life isn’t really for me after all.
Anybody else going through this?
Posted by: Miss Blue Stocking | January 26, 2010 6:47 AM
Many sadists and masochists have had to face this: being married or in a committed relationship with a vanilla partner.
Some people work it out so that they can play with third party. Do the kinky stuff by nothing conventionally sexual or affectionate.
But most often the need for full self-expression, personal fulfillment leads to divorce or break-up.
Posted by: Richard | January 26, 2010 7:48 AM
Thank You, Richard.
I suppose that will happen sooner or later (break-up) I’d just rather it happen later.
Posted by: Miss Blue Stocking | January 30, 2010 2:28 AM
It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who feels insecure about being a sadist. God knows how I have hated myself for being attracted to other people’s pains to such extremes.. I really thought I was in the stages of becoming a necrophiliac someday.. >.<
Posted by: Rune | February 13, 2010 1:15 PM