For Wives & Girlfriends Who Don't Want to Dominate
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Ms Rika offers advice for wives and girlfriends who aren’t comfortable with their husbands and boyfriends desires to be dominated:
You may dislike the imagery of the words ‘dominance’ and ‘submission’, ‘Mistress’ and ‘slave’. However, you might like the idea of your partner doting on you, alert to your needs, totally turned on by you, giving you massages, pulling his weight around the house (and then some), focusing on your thoughts and ideas, in short, treating you like a Queen. Personally, I have no interest in hurting my partner or having him kneel when I come in the room, but I absolutely adore the thought that it was his idea to just sit together and chat after he cleaned up from the lunch he prepared us and that he gets physically turned on by folding the laundry! Don’t blame him for using those other types of words. They’re what he’s been fed in the magazines and movies he’s seen. He just may not know better.
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Comments
“physically turned on by folding the laundry”? Not a single sub I know does that.
Posted by: roo-roo | July 16, 2007 4:57 PM
I find it difficult to believe but do see men who claim that it is true …
Posted by: Richard | July 16, 2007 7:00 PM
Laundry is just a chore, but folding her laundry is a turn on. As is shining her shoes and shopping for her deodorant, tampons, razors and all her other personal items.
Posted by: ora1555 | July 21, 2007 4:13 AM
The personality to dominate is usually there or not. But sometimes control is a sexual thing, if having things done for you is an empowering act. Some women like to be pampered and this could be a way to get what you want. Romance is desire by most women but not natural for men. If he gets what he wants you have the world, that includes laundry. Take advantage spend some time teasing and demanding acts prior to giving him what he may desire. It’s not the laundry but the act of being subservent. I say use it I did. And I have more free time to shop without him complaining. He seems to enjoy it. Oh yeah I hate laundry!
Posted by: cierra | October 2, 2007 2:33 PM