First Time Domme

Your First Time Acting as His Mistress

If you are new to it all you’ll probably feel a bit insecure the first time you dominate your boyfriend or husband (or internet acquaintance).

Don’t expect things to be perfect.

Don’t let your guy manipulate you into trying acts for which you aren’t ready. Set your limits and stick to them.

Start off with something that you are comfortable with. Perhaps he can prepare a meal and then serve it like a butler or waiter. Or he could give you a foot massage.

The first time you use bondage gear in a scene there’s apt to be at least one minor mishap. And that is all it is: minor.

You may have practiced on pillows but your first real life experience inflicting corporal punishment will see you feeling nervous. Even clumsy. Everyone engaged in S&:M has had to get through and past that. Experience will build skill.

Use any and every relaxation technique you know: visualization, deep breathing. Try to let go of yourself and enjoy what you are experiencing.

We wouldn’t do these things if they weren’t fun and fulfilling.